Abahungu benshi bagira akantu ko kwihagararaho ku buryo niyo bagiye gukora imibonano mpuza bitsina ku nshuro ya mbere baba bameze nkaho babikoze mbere. Ariko burya baba bafite ubwoba bwa hatari.
Ibibazo Abahungu Bakunze kwibaza
Ese ndibubikunde?
Ese ndibushimishe mugenzi wange?
Ese niwe koko tugomba gukorana imibonano mpuza bitsina?
Ese ndibuze kuyihagurutsa? Ese ndabishobora ntanseka
Ibi ni ibibazo abahungu benshi bibaza mbere yo gukora imibonano mpuza bitsina. Muby’ ukuri rero inshuro ya mbere ntabwo igenda uko umuntu aba yabitekereje, abahungu benshi bemeza ko umuhungu arangiza vuba cyane kandi ibintu bidakozwe neza.
KWITEGURA
Icyintu cya mbere ugomba gutekerezaho ni umuntu mugiye gukorana imibonano mpuza bitsina. Uwo muntu agomba kuba agukunda kandi nawe umukunda, kugirango ibintu biramutse bigenze nabi mufashanye nta soni cyangwa kwitana bamwana. Abahungu benshi bahubukira mu mibonano mpuza bitsina batarabyitegura kubera inshuti zabo ziba zarabikoze kandi zikabaseka ngo ntibarabikora,. Ibyo ntacyo bivuze na gato! Ntawuzi igihe agomba gutegereza. Icyo ugomba kw’itaho nuko utazicuza impamvu wabikoze nyuma yaho.
Dore ibibazo bimwe na bimwe wakwibaza:
-Mugenzi wange mufitiye ikizere?
-Ese dushobora kumarana igihe kirekire?
-Hari umuntu cyangwa ikintu birimo gutuma mpubuka?
Ikindi kandi, uramutse wumvishe utabishaka cyangwa utarabyitegura neza, nta mpanvu yo guhubuka, wategereza. Kandi na mugenzi wawe ari umuntu ugukunda yabyumva akagufasha kugirango witegure.
INAMA
Kuganira ni kimwe mu bintu bituma imibonano mpuza bitsina igenda neza, mwabiganira mbere yo kubikora na nyuma kugirango mubwirane ibyagenze neza n’ibitagenze neza. Iyo mubivuganye mujya kubikora mwese mubyiteguye.
Ushobora guhagarika imibonano igihe cyose ushakiye, mwaba mwatangiye cyangwa mutaratangira, ntakibazo, upfa kuba wumva udashaka gukomeza, si ngombwa gukora ibintu kuberako bishimisha mugenzi wawe kandi wowe bitagushimisha.
Niba ugize ibibazo igitsina cyawe kikanga guhaguruka (gushyukwa) ntago biba bigoranye cyane kuko ni ibintu bishobora kubaho ku nshuro za mbere. Icyo wakora ni ukutabitekerezaho cyane ngo wumve ko isi yahagaze, kuko kubitekereza muri ubwo buryo byatuma ukomeza kunanirwa gushyukwa. Ahubwo wakwitonda ukongera ukagerageza hashize akanya cyangwa se ku munsi ukurikira. Niba mugenzi wawe mwumvikana ntakibazo yagutera, ahubwo ashobora kubigufashamo mu buryo butandukanye...
Ikintu gikomeye tugomba kwibuka ni ukwirinda, tugakoresha agakingirizo kuko idwara nka sida n’ibibazo bishobora guturuka mu mibonano mpuza bitsina ari nyinshi. Udukikingirizo tuboneka ahantu hose mu gihugu, haba mu ma kiosque cyangwa se muri za pharmacie.
Guhuza Igitsina Bwa Mbere-Ku Bahungu
Guhuza Igitsina Bwa Mbere-Ku Bakobwa
Abakobwa benshi baba bafite ubwoba ku nshuro ya mbere y'imibonano mpuza bitsina.
Ese ndabikunda?
ese ndibubabare?
ese ndibushimishe inshuti yange?
ese iyi nshuti niyo nyayo?
Ibyo ni bimwe mu bibazo abakobwa bibaza mbere yo gukora imibonano mpuza bitsina ku nshuro ya mbere. Mu byukuri rero inshuro za mbere ntabwo zibukwa neza mu buzima... abakobwa benshi bemezako inshuro za mbere ziryana ho gatoya, ko ziba zidashimishije cyane, iyo rero umaze kumenyera nibwo utangira kumva no kumenya neza ibyiza by’ imibonano mpuza bitsina.
Kwitegura guhuza Igitsina ubwa mbere
Icya mbere ugomba gutekerezaho ni umuntu muri kumwe. Iyo nshuti muba mugiye gukorana imibonano ugomba kuba uyikunda nayo igukunda bihagije. Abakobwa benshi bahubukira mu mibonano mpuza bitsina bataritegura neza kubera ko inshuti zabo zibirukansa cyane cyangwa hari ibyo zibemereye nk'amafaranga n'ibindi. Niba umuhungu adashobora gutegereza igihe wunva uri witeguye kugirango mubikore mureke ntacyo aba akumariye... Nta mpamvu yo kubikora nyuma ukicuza.
Dore bimwe mu bibazo ushobora kwibaza:
-Uyu mushuti wange mufitiye ikizere?
-Ubu se nyuma yaho tuzagumana cyangwa azigendera?
-Aho sinaba nihuse
Burya niwumva utabyiyumvamo uzabyihorere. Singombwa kuryamana n'umuntu uba ari bubyuke yivuga ibigwi mu nshuti ze...kandi wowe nta nyungu ubifitemo usibye kugutesha icyubahiro kandi abasore nk'abo baragwiriye
Ikintu gikomeye ugomba kumenya nuko ugomba kwirinda ingaruka wavana mu guhuza igitsina n'undi muntu. Waba wirinda gusama cyangwa wirinda indwara zituruka ku mibonano mpuza bitsina ugomba kwirinda bihagije. Ugomba gukoresha agakingirizo uko byagenda kose.
Hari abasore rero badakunze gukoresha udukingirizo, bakagusobanurira muri aya magambo:
-Wapi wana capote ituma ntashyukwa neza...
-Capote ni feke ituma umuntu atumva uburyohe....
-Ewana aho nagiye kuzigura nasanze zashize...
Ntibakakubeshye, udukingirizo tugurishwa ahantu henshi haba mu ma boutique cyangwa muri za pharmacie, nawe ushobora kukigurira ntakibazo.
Bakobwa rero nababwira iki nimwitonde mubyirukane umuco n’ubwitonzi nyarwanda.
IGITUBA KU MUPFUMU
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