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Kwikinisha ni iki, akamaro n’ingaruka

 

 

kwikinisha

Kwikinisha

Kwikinisha ni igikorwa umuntu akora n’akaboko ke cyangwa igikoresho cyabugenewe, agakorakora imyanya ye ndangagitsina ashaka kugira ibyiyumvo nk’ibyumuntu uri mu gikorwa cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Abahanga mu buzima bw’imyororokere bavuga ko uretse abantu, inyamanswa nazo zikinisha. Bakomeza kandi bavugako umubare mwinshi w’abantu bikinisha bakunda kubikora buri munsi, mu gihe abandi babikora byibuze rimwe cyangwa kabiri mu kwezi.

Nkuko buri muntu agira ibimunyura bikamunezeza ni nako uri mu gikorwa cyo kwikinisha ashimishwa no kugera ku byishimo bye byanyuma, akumva ubushake yari afite bugeze ku musozo kandi abikesha we ubwe, aribyo bita kurangiza.

Ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko kwikinisha akenshi ari ingeso umuntu atangira akiri muto akarinda ayikurana. Bivugwa ko kandi umubare munini w’igitsina gabo batangira iyi ngeso kumyaka 10 na 15, naho kub’igitsina gore ni uguhera ku myaka 12 na 13. Impamvu abenshi bahuriza kuri iyi myaka ni uko ariho umuntu atangira kugira imihindagurikire ku mubiri agenda ava mu bwana ajya mu cyiciro cy’ubugimbi n’ubwangavu ,kandi ko ariho aba afite amatsiko ku mikorere y’umubiri we, aha niho benshi batangirira kugerageza kwikinisha.

Bitewe n’imyumvire n’umuco, benshi bakunze kugoreka amakuru ku gikorwa cyo kwikinisha. Tantine nta muntu igira inama yo kwikinisha ariko tuguha amakuru atabogamye kuri iki gikorwa.

Ese hari akamaro kwikinisha bifitiye umubiri?

 

 

Iyo wifashishije inyandiko nyinshi zivuga ku kwikinisha, usanga zimwe zivuga ko bigira ingaruka nziza ku buzima:

Ku bagabo bibafasha gusohora amasohoro ashaje mu mubiri, bigatuma hakorwa andi mashya kandi afite imbaraga. Kuri iyi ngingo abahanga bavuga ko amasohoro iyo amaze igihe mu mubiri agera igihe agasaza ndetse bikaba byatuma n’intanga zirimo ziba zigira imbaraga nkeya .
Kwikinisha kandi ngo ni umuti ukomeye ku bagabo bafite ikibazo cyo kurangiza vuba, kuko ngo babasha kumenya imbaraga z’umubiri wabo, no kumenya igihe bashobora kumara batarasohora iyo bari mu gikorwa cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina. Abahanga bavuga ko ari byiza kubanza kwikinisha mbere y’igikorwa cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina, kugira ngo bibafashae kutarangiza vuba.
Kwikinisha kandi ngo bigabanya ibyago byo kurwara kanseri y’udusabo tw’intanga, ku bagabo cyane cyane bari mu kigero k’imyaka mirongo itanu kuzamura ngo kwikinisha bishobora kubarinda kurwara kanseri ifata udusabo tw’intanga iyo bageze mu zabukuru.
Kwikinisha bigabanya umunaniro ukabije cyangwa “stress” mu ndimi z’amahanga. Abahanga bavuga ko niba umuntu ari wenyine akagira ubushake bw’imibonano mpuzabitsina ntacyo bitwaye kwikemurira ikibazo mu gihe nta wundi wo kubikorana uhari. Bakomeza bavuga kandi ko bifasha mu kwirinda kugira agahinda gakabije “depression”.
Gusinzira neza: abahanga mu buzima bemeza ko kwikinisha mbere yo kujya kuryama ari byiza kuko bituma umuntu agira ibitotsi byiza. Dr Causcud we yavuze ko ari iby’agaciro kuko ngo bituma umubiri uruhuka bityo rero iyo bikozwe mbere yo kuryama habaho gusinzira neza.

Nubwo abahanga mu myororokere bamwe bavuga ko kwikinisha ari ingeso nziza, abandi barabavuguruza. Umuhanga mu mitekerereze w’umudage, Immanuel Kant, yavuze ko kubikora ari ukwiyangiriza ubuzima ndetse ko binyuranyije n’amategeko kamere. Mu kunga murye mugenzi we, Sigmund Freud, yavuze ko bidakwiriye ari ukwiyambura ubuzima.

Ingaruka mbi zo kwikinisha

Kutarangiza vuba ku bagore bakunze kwikinisha: Imibonano mpuzabitsina ni igikorwa gishimisha ibitsina byombi. Ubushakashatsi bwerekanye ko abagore benshi bikinisha cyangwa bigeze kwikinisha mu myaka yabo bakiri abakobwa ko bahura n’ikibazo cyo gutinda kurangiza mu gihe bari mu gikorwa cyimibonano mpuzabitsina. Abahanga kandi bakomeza bavuga ko iyo abakobwa cyangwa abagore bamaze gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina batarangije, bahitamo kwikinisha kugira ngo bagere ku byishimo byabo bya nyuma.
Kwikinisha bishobora gutera ubugumba, Inzobere mu buzima zemeza ko umuntu wikinisha byibuze gatatu mu kwezi, nyuma y’igihe runaka ngo aba afite ibyago byinshi byo kubura urubyaro cyangwa kuba ingumba, bakomeza bavuga ko iyo wikinishije utakaza intanga nyinshi bityo rero ukazagera igihe cyo gushaka urbyaro ukarubura.
Kwibagirwa vuba: ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko abantu benshi bikinisha bakunda guhura n’iki kibazo cyo kudakunda kugira ubwonko bwibutsa. Nkuko byemezwa n’abahanga mu buzima bwo mu mutwe, bavuga ko iyo kwikinisha bimaze kuba karande ku muntu bituma aribyo ahora atekereza bigatuma agira ubushobozi buke bwo kwibuka ibintu by’ingenzi.
Kugira isoni zikabije: kubera ipfunwe ahanini abantu baterwa no kuba bikinisha bishobora kubatera isoni iyo bageze mu bandi. Iki ni ikintu abahanga benshi bahurizaho, umuntu wikinisha ahora yumva ko ari hasi y’abandi mu mitekerereze kandi ngo abenshi ntibakunda kwigirira ikizere cyane cyane nkiyo bari mu bandi.
Kugira imbaraga nkeya z’umubiri: nkuko twabivuze hejuru kwikinisha bigera ku musozo iyo uri kubikora ageze ku byishimo bye bya nyuma ari byo bita kurangiza. Mu kurangiza rero umubiri uhatakariza amasohoro akungahaye ku myunyu ngugu n’intungamubiri zifasha mu mikorere myiza y’umubiri, kandi ngo uko bikorwa kenshi niko umubiri ugenda uhazaharira.

Ni gute wakwirinda kugwa mu ngeso zo kwikinisha

Kwikinisha bigira ingaruka ku mubiri nziza n’izindi mbi cyane nkuko twabibonye haruguru. Bitewe n’uguhitamo kwa muntu cyangwa umuco runaka ushobora kubireka kabone n’iyo kubireka byaba byarakunaniye. Dore inama zitangwa n’abaganga;

Kwirinda gusoma ibitabo bifitanye isano n’imibonano mpuzabitsina kuko ngo bishobora gutuma witekerezaho ugashiduka wikinishije igihe uri kubisoma uri wenyine.
Kwirinda kureba filime za porono (pornography), filime zikubiyemo ibikorwa byose bijyanye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina ngo zishobora gutuma uzireba yihugiraho agashiduka yikinishije.
Kurwanya ibitekerezo byose byakuganisha ku kwikinisha, aha abaganga bavuga ko ugomba kudatekereza cyane ku bintu bifitanye isano no kwikinisha kuko ngo ushobora kwisanga wabikoze nawe utazi aho biturutse.